Por Constanza Suárez
5 abril, 2018

No tiene problemas en darles comida basura, en andar sin cubrirse o en que usen tecnología. Y comenzó la polémica.

Si me pagaran una moneda de cinco centavos por cada vez que me llaman ‘mala madre’, ¡sería rica!”. Así comienza la polémica publicación de una madre de 2 niños, llamada Sia Cooper, en su cuenta de Instagram.

If I had a nickel for every time I’ve been called a “bad mom,” I would be soooo rich! It seems almost impossible to be a textbook or politically correct good mom these days because everywhere you turn another mom is judging your parenting choices. Am I right? I’ve been called a bad mom for: Workout out during pregnancy. Working out while having kids… period. For caring about my looks and health. Working out in Target. Using canned goods and plastic crockpot liners. Having tattoos and piercings. Enjoying wine every now and then. For letting my kids use technology. For letting my kids have sugar and happy meals occasionally. For not “covering up” around my kids. For running a full time business from home. For co-sleeping with my kids. For collecting sports cars and motorcycles aka having a hobby. For taking time for myself. For having abs. I’ve learned that the true “bad moms” out there are the ones who constantly tear other moms down by judging them. Those moms are the ones who are truly insecure and have strong feelings of inadequacy because why else would they do that? Misery loves company. There’s no one right way to parent or to be a mom. We all are running in the same race and doing the best that we can. Motherhood is not a one size fits all-what works for one family may not work for the next. So who are we to judge another mom’s choices or reasoning? Being a mom is hard enough and if all the following make me a “bad mom” then I’ll gladly wear it proudly! Here’s to all the bad moms out there. Follow @badmomconfessions to submit a confession or read other anonymous mothers’ spills! @todayshow @goodmorningamerica @theviewabc @thetalkcbs @theellenshow

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Probablemente no fue al banco a “cobrar” ningún dinero, pero si armó un incendiario debate en redes sociales al respecto. Ella se declaró orgullosa de ser una “mala madre”.

¿Las razones por las que critican a Sia? No es negligencia ni abuso, no está entregando a sus hijos a un extraño, ni tratándolos mal. Son más bien cuestiones cotidianas, que los demás ven como “incorrectas”.

Estas son solo algunas de las cosas que se le inculpan frecuentemente a Sia, que al parecer son suficientes para catalogarla como una “mala madre”: hacer ejercicio mientras tienen hijos, hacerse tatuajes y piercings, dejar que sus hijos usen la tecnología, beber vino “de vez en cuando” y dejar que sus hijos disfruten de comida chatarra en contadas ocasiones, no cubrirse, tener un pasatiempo, y – desconcertantemente – usar productos enlatados y forros de plástico.

Can I just take a minute to say WOW! The “bad mom” post that I made last week went VIRAL and stirred up so many conversations around mom-shaming and judgement against moms altogether. I couldn’t be more thankful for the awesome comments, messages, and likes that it had received. Therefore, this is “part 2” of that post where I wanna expand a bit. In my last post, I mentioned several ways that I’ve been judged against as a mom and mainly it’s because I find the time to workout. I’ve been called selfish a thousand times because I choose to make fitness a priority as a mom. I’ve been told that my kids are probably neglected and that I put them off on a nanny. The hateful comments normally come from other moms who can’t or won’t put forth the same effort for whatever reason. I’ve also been judged for working out during pregnancy and received hateful messages saying my baby was going to die and get shaken up in the womb. I’ve been told my baby would have brain damage. I had gone viral during pregnancy for maintaining my 6 pack so some people commented that my abs were going to choke my baby. Yes I’m dead serious guys. And of course there’s the Target workout judgement where I filmed a fun and playful workout video while shopping at Target that went viral last year and people called me a lunatic and crazy. My point is? You can’t please everyone and y’all… other moms are the WORST! You’d think that moms would support one another instead of tearing each other apart. It seems like you’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t. If another mom or a person in general wants to call ME a “bad mom” -vain, selfish, whatever- for putting my health first and for “having abs” then so be it! I encourage you all to take what you’ve been called a bad mom for and wear it proud. Own it! To the haters, you can kiss my abs Being a mom isn’t easy and there is no wrong way to parent IF your kids are loved, healthy, and being taken care of. ‍♀️ Am I right? Follow @badmomconfessions to share your bad mom moments to be shared anonymously and to read other mom’s confessions! #worldsokayestmom @todayshow @goodmorningamerica @theviewabc @thetalkcbs @theellenshow @scarymommy

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“Parece casi imposible ser una buena madre, políticamente correcta, en estos días porque dondequiera que te encuentres, otra madre está juzgando tus opciones de crianza”, escribió Cooper en su publicación.

Todos sabemos que la crianza es un trabajo difícil. Nadie sabe específicamente como hacerlo a la perfección, lo que puede poner bajo mucha presión la labor de los padres, sobre todo la de las madres. Pero eso no quiere decir que tengan que ceder bajo las opiniones de los demás.

https://www.instagram.com/p/BhKgrQln8Hz/?diaryofafitmommyofficial

Es por eso que Sia ya no lucha contra la etiqueta de “mala madre”. De hecho, ella está muy orgullosa del tipo de madre que es.

“Aprendí que las verdaderas ‘malas mamás’ son las que constantemente destrozan a otras madres al juzgarlas”, escribió Cooper. “Esas madres son realmente inseguras y tienen fuertes sentimientos de inadecuación, la miseria ama la compañía “.

No hay una sola manera correcta de ser padre o madre“, continuó. “Todos estamos corriendo en la misma carrera y haciendo lo mejor que podemos”, explicó en su escrito.

¿Qué te parece la postura de Sia?

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