“I hope and pray for the day when a child can transition smoothly without being judged, especially by his or her peers at school. But that’s the reality,” confessed Lily Jones.
Growing up following society’s standards without feeling comfortable in your own body, in addition to living in a small town, can be difficult. Deviation from the norm means suffering the constant stares of people… and not in a good way. For transgendered youth like Lily Jones, it’s been a huge challenge, but one that is sure to get better over time.
Lily: A Transgender Story, is the new BBC documentary that shows how a trans girl from Wales, undergoes gender reassignment surgery, its repercussions, both physical and psychological, and what it’s like to live in a world filled with constant stares and opinions.
Lily never fit in. This was something she felt ever since she was a child. Her behaviors caused other children to distance themselves from her because they didn’t understand her. One of her biggest problems was growing up in a small town where ignorance abounded.
When she decided to start her transition process, she was lucky to have a close group of friends who supported her. Her family was also always very open-minded and she never felt rejected by them. The outside world was a different story that she had to deal with constantly.
One day, she gathered up the courage and began her social transition. She used feminine pronouns, wore feminine clothes and accepted that she’d be judged in school. YouTube, however, would offer her a pillar of support. She remembers one day coming across a video of a trans YouTuber, which caught her attention because it showed a world without fear, motivating her to create her own channel, where she currently uploads content.
One of the reasons for the documentary is to inspire other young people to dare to undergo the change, without pressure, showing that if one no longer hides one’s essence, things can only get better over time.
“I hope and pray for the day when a child can transition smoothly without being judged, especially by his or her peers at school. But that’s the reality.”
–Lily Jones to the BBC–
The Welsh girl assures that living as a trans person is considered a political act. No matter what platforms you use, it always has a meaning. The important thing is to “talk to people about what you believe in.” She says that even though generations have changed considerably, she doesn’t believe that the struggle will end any time soon, so it is important for the community to have the courage to fight every day.
Her boyfriend Adam, who also appears in the documentary, has been with her since even before she underwent her gender reassignment surgery. Their relationship is extremely stable, and they’ve lived together since before the COVID-19 pandemic began.
“I think he found out for himself. He found an old video online and watched it without telling me. It was funny, I think I sat him down one day and said, ‘Adam, I need to tell you something,’ and he said, ‘yeah, I know.”
–Lily Jones to the BBC–
Today, Lily is grateful for the person she has as a partner, and for the family and friends who are so open-minded and have accompanied her. She assures that exposing herself to the world in the documentary was a decision to show children who are currently suffering from doubts that there’s no need to fear.