19 photos of parents before and after having children. You’ll want to lend them money to pay for a nanny.

I don’t know whether to laugh or cry.

Even those who plan and prepare to become parents have no idea what’s really awaiting them until they are literally holding their newborn baby in their arms. Your life will change completely, however much you may not want to accept it initially. The nights become long, filled with tasks like bathing the children, feeding them and trying to get them to sleep through the night, instead of parties and cocktails. And you can forget the glamour, because once the life of another human being depends on you, you’ll quickly find that things like taking a shower and brushing your hair take a back seat.

But it’s not all bad: at the end of the day, they’re family and the new parents will experience the joy of watching a little person that they created grow up.

The instagram account “Got Toddlered” has shared this process and it’s very funny. And their before and after pictures of first-time parents might make them question their decision. At least for a moment.