We went from “I can do it on my own and I don’t need anyone” to “if you don’t pay for dinner, my nails, and the rent, don’t even talk to me”. A social media trend that has everyone laughing at adults’ mental gymnastics.
If there is one thing adults teach us every day, it is that their logic changes faster than the weather. For years, we heard anthems of independence, speeches about the self-sufficient woman, and the famous phrase that “women don’t cry anymore, women make money”. Everything was going wonderfully… until the restaurant bill arrived.
In recent weeks, TikTok and Instagram have been flooded with the movement dubbed the ‘Femosphere’ (or the spoiled queens’ club). What is it about? Basically, it is a group of content creators who preach that men should cover 100% of the relationship’s financial expenses: outings, dinners, trips, rent and, if possible, even manicure appointments.
The magic math of adulthood
What causes laughter and mockery on social media is not that people like being taken out to dinner (who doesn’t, right?), but the incredible intellectual juggling act required to bring together two completely opposite narratives:
Saturday night (on the date): “Oh no, my love, my money is for my personal little treats and yours is for paying the bill, the tip, the Uber and the gas. That’s called princess treatment.” 💳🤡
Monday to Friday: “I am an empowered, professional, independent woman who earns her own money and answers to no one.” 📈💅