Jada Pinkett Smith grew tired of the rumors and decided to explain it herself.

For years, people said that she and Will Smith didn’t set limits for Jaden and Willow, and the actress confirmed that it was true: traditional punishments didn’t exist in their home. But behind that decision was a story few people knew. Before becoming the mother of Willow and Jaden, Jada had raised three other children under strict rules and constant control. Over time, she realized that formula didn’t work: what she tried to prevent ended up happening anyway.

With her own children, she completely changed her strategy. She gave them space to make mistakes, to push against their own limits and learn on their own, always within a safe environment. By 2014, with Jaden 16 and Willow 13, both were already making their way as musicians and actors on their own merit. Parenting without rules or simply different rules?

