Alex Aspasia is 31 years old and lives in Miami.
She is 1,83 meters tall, weighs 175 kilos, and got divorced last year. Since then, she has returned to dating, and what she found made her think differently about desire and shame. Many men seek her out, and some even write to her privately —she says there are professional athletes and rappers among them— but when the time comes to go out in public, everything changes. One of them confessed that his family would never accept her size. Another simply didn’t want anyone to know they were together.
She sums it up this way: they want her in bed, not on their arm. And although she acknowledges that her confidence is magnetic to many, she is not willing to settle for a hidden version of herself. She wants someone to choose her completely, in public and in private, for who she is and not just for her curves. Her message reached hundreds of thousands of people, and many women responded with the same sentiment: if someone wants you in secret, they don’t want you enough.
