Marrying herself sounded like the ultimate declaration of self-love, but Suellen eventually discovered that even that relationship could become exhausting.
Brazilian influencer Suellen Carey, who lives in London, held a sologamy ceremony in front of her followers in 2023. At the time, she explained that she wanted to prioritize her well-being and mental health and commit to taking better care of and valuing herself.
But after a year, she began to feel that she was demanding too much of herself. As she explained, the pressure of trying to be “perfect for herself all the time” ended up exhausting her, and she also began to feel lonely.
Before bringing that chapter to an end, Suellen tried to save her unusual marriage in an equally unusual way: she attended 10 couples therapy sessions alone to work on her relationship with herself.
She finally decided to “get a divorce”, although she clarified that she does not regret marrying herself. She says the experience served as a process of healing and self-discovery, and she is now even open to meeting a partner.
In the end, her greatest lesson was not to love herself perfectly, but to understand that she also had to accept her own imperfections.