For Steve Harvey, a relationship should first go through a kind of “trial period”.
The comedian popularized his so-called “90-day rule” in his book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, and years later he explained it again on television. His advice was aimed especially at women: wait three months before having sex to see how much commitment the other person really has to offer.
Harvey compared the idea to the benefits of a job. He recalled working at a company where employees had to complete 90 days before becoming eligible for certain benefits, because they first had to prove they would stay. According to him, a relationship could work according to a similar logic.
He also said he was speaking from his own romantic mistakes, not because he considered himself an expert on relationships. In fact, he acknowledged that his failures had taught him what behaviors he had exhibited as a man and what his partners had tolerated.
His argument was pretty simple: if someone is looking to build something lasting, three months shouldn’t seem like too long to wait. And if they disappear before then, perhaps the wait has already given you an answer. cbsnews.com
